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I’m not a compulsive list-maker by any stretch, but sometimes, if I have a new pad of paper, a new ink cartridge in the fountain pen I use maybe three times a year, and nothing else to do (in other words, my Wireless connection is acting up) I’ll start a list such as that begun on June 24, 2012. Entitled, “Things We Really Need To Do Around Here,” it has been ignored for nine months. Thirteen of fourteen things still need to be done, not the least of which is “Hang pictures & get rid of ones we HATE.” The only thing done that resulted in any demonstrable changes was “Call the Mike the Painter.”
On July 1st, I began another list. I wrote it down with To Do at the top and next to each item, I added an empty check box:
- Call Southwest Diagnostic re: bill
- Cancel newspaper until 7/21
- Fwd Mail
- Find someplace for Atticus!!!!
- Beck – Looking for a Sign
- Tom Waits – The Heart of Saturday Night
- Ask mam – did granda tell her about The Battle of the Somme??
- Poppies
Well-intentioned and clearly focused on an upcoming vacation that necessitated sending Atticus to kitty jail, I was off to a good start. I’m guessing Beck must have popped up on Pandora, sending me and my list off on a tangent that ended with remembering my grandfather who fought in World War I. Nonetheless, we went on vacation, the cat lives, my playlists include more Beck and Tom Waits, and I have written about my grandfather and his experiences as a young soldier lest any of us forget.
While I don’t make daily to-do lists, I am rarely without post-it notes in my handbag, or one of those little notepads reporters used to carry around in their back pockets. This is not entirely about being ready to jot down things of a pedestrian nature, although that has happened – I’ll quickly scribble some new medical term I need to look up on Google, because instead of asking my doctor what she was talking about, I just sat there, nodding sagely. Or I will remember that I need to buy shampoo. I might hastily write down the name of the store where I can find a handbag like the one hanging from the arm of the complete stranger I met in the post-office, befriending her over our mutual regard for a bag that’s just the right size. Paper and pen at hand is more aspirational, anticipation of some treasure waiting for me in the most unexpected places.
I remember a summer afternoon in 2008 on Brattle Street in Cambridge, MA when I spotted a bright yellow piece of paper stuck to the window of an American Apparel store. On it, something John F. Kennedy had said about immigration, that I have since learned was part of the Legalize LA campaign. No smartphone on hand to take a picture, I captured those achingly relevant words in my little reporter’s notepad, and for good measure added them to my signature on my work email:
Immigration policy should be generous; it should be fair; it should be flexible. With such a policy we can turn to the world and to our own past with clean hands and a clear conscience.
Along with John F. Kennedy’s compassionate words on immigration, I have jotted down reminders, presumably, to buy water, ice, band aids, and plane tickets to San Diego. Stuck between the plane tickets and the need for band aids, is The Drunkard’s Walk by Leonard Mlodinow. This is the title of a book, and I am now bemused, given the theme that is developing here, by its subtitle: How Randomness Rules our Lives. I wish I could remember who told me about this book and in what context. I probably need to read it.
Randomness continues on the next page with apples, strawberries, bananas and a toothbrush. I need to call Kathleen, perhaps about a pair of shoes from Sandalworld online, where, as it happens, I will also find Jack Rogers. Realizing eventually that Mr. Rogers is not someone I need to call, but is the name attached to pricy sandals which the website screams, are the summertime staple. There is another quotation: “Culture is a social control system. If you don’t manage it, it can undermine innovation and creativity and hinder your ability to execute your strategy. This is why a leader should care about culture.” Indeed a leader should. I have no idea where I was or who said this, but obviously it was someone who said something I had also been thinking about, except better than I could and at just the right time.
A man of few written words, my husband loves his post-it notes where his abbreviations of grocery items often render them cryptic as ancient hieroglyphics or personalized license plates.Yesterday morning, I spotted on top of a small pitcher of water his note to himself to feed our family of humming birds and water the petunias in the front yard. He added a flourish. “Hum-bird. Water the Front.”
The stories we could weave from our discarded lists and post-it notes – resolutions, reminders, instructions, and bucket lists. Our favorite things. The very worst things, too, the things we fear the most – a message received too late, a fence never mended, undeniable evidence of a loved one’s harrowing descent into memory loss. Intimate. Relatable. Human.
Whatever is posted on those notes stuck to themselves at the bottom of my handbag is unlikely to see the light of day, unlike the array of yellow post-its, lists, and miniature drawings that meander around, above, and on top of a desk belonging to the aunt of a friend:
An artist, she has pressed tightly over the edge an intriguing “Simplicity. Complexity.” I am curious about the story contained in those words but it’s likely to remain elusive, as it does for artist Adriane Herman who for almost a decade rummaged through trashcans and grocery carts, culling evidence of the way we spend our time – or the way we aspire to.
In her review of Herman’s word-based art, Annie Larmon describes this reconstruction of “our most ephemeral and disposable documents as relevant cultural artifacts,”
From grocery and to-do lists to notes scrawled on Post-its, Herman slips between humor and scrutiny while unpacking the social narratives and psychological patterns loaded into the uncensored scribbles
Here, in Art of the List, Herman presents and discusses these marks we make, our sometimes desperate attempts to contain the lives we are living in small and sticky spaces:
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Victoria said:
Oh I like that quotation from JFK.
A few months ago I met a young American man who had recently arrived in Paris and we went out to coffee together. He described all of the trips to the prefecture and the papers he had to fill out to regularize his situation here (yep, he was here illegally for a time) and how hard it was to do all of this in French. And then he said something that just blew me away. You know, he said, I never realized how hard it is to be an immigrant. And now I have some idea what migrants in the U.S. have to go through. It’s changed everything I ever thought I knew about immigration.
I wish more Americans would have this experience of walking in a migrant’s shoes. Hard to understand what it really means to be an immigrant until the day (surprise!) you are one. 🙂
(And here’s the big secret – there are already around 6 million Americans living outside the U.S. Where I live (France) there are over 100,000 of us. The US is the top migrant sending country to places like Canada, Mexico and other places in Latin America.)
Editor said:
Oh, Victoria
There is so much hypocrisy and a collective short memory, I think, when it comes to immigration.
Just last month, we celebrated Dr. King who said that there should be “a place at the table for every needy child,” and room at the inn, essentially that the American dream belongs to everyone. The rest of the year, there are so many of the same people who say they stand up for MLK’s dream for all children, yet they are awfully quick to suggest casting out so many young people who are here through no fault of their own. America is the only country they know, yet still they wait and wait for the DREAM to be theirs.
I so hope to see real reform in immigration soon. It’s a long time coming.
Victoria said:
I hope so too. I watch the debate over the DREAMers and just have to laugh (or cry). My children haven’t lived in the U.S. since they were toddlers, never went to American schools, didn’t even speak fluent English until they were adolescents and yet they are both American citizens with all the rights and responsibilities of that citizenship, no questions asked. I’m very glad they are U.S. citizens but I am very much aware that they got into the club via an accident of birth. I don’t understand why America is making the DREAMers fight so hard – it just seems so unfair.
Editor said:
I hear you. I’m so aware that my daughter is American just because she was fortunate enough to have been born to an American father and a resident mother. Here’s a little snippet from my experiences with immigration here in AZ: http://www.barriozona.com/yvonne_watterson_living_the_dream_award_2008.html
jbaird said:
I also like that quotation from JFK. I am still operating off a list I made over a week ago on things to do when I got back home (after being gone three months for cancer treatment). The list keeps growing, with some items more urgent than others, as I’m finding out. Hotels can get booked faster than you think, for example. Thanks for your beautiful writing. xox
P.S I am faring quite well after clear scans told me I only need treatment every three weeks. I have peripheral neuropathy in my hands and feet (and even my mouth), and I am cold all the time, but I can live with those side-effects.
Editor said:
Jan, if there’s anything I can do on this end to help with getting things done, just send me an email. I am so glad to hear that you are doing better, although treatment every three weeks must be awfully hard to deal with. I’m sorry you have to live with any side effects at all.
xo
Keith Watterson said:
Loved this, Yvonne. and I also really liked your mixtape song ‘The Art of Living’ (seems like an appropriate choice, though may well be a Mac generated coincidence, albeit, an entirely happy one), which you put on an actual C90 mixtape for me way back when music was shared via cassette tapes. 🙂 If you want to feel really old, I do believe it was circa 1991 😮
Editor said:
I love that song. And it is not a coincidence. Nope. Do you remember that radio station I used to love? KZON 101.5 and every year they did a “Collectibles” CD … that’s the only place I ever heard that song. Ken keeps saying it’s a remake … he’s wrong, right??
Keith Watterson said:
I don’t know. I don’t think so. I think the main riff in the song is a bit of an archetype. Whether a remake or not, it’s a cracking track. Made for the highway 🙂
Editor said:
Totally. Perhaps you should write a post about music for the road??
karen sutherland said:
dear yvonne,
don’t you find that often when you are making lists, they seem to garner all sorts of other lists? i find that so frustrating at times, but then again chuckle as i apply sticky notes to sticky note and KNOW that with chemobrain i probably will find them seperated and not be able to figure our the “W–H–A–T?…of the elusive logic that connected them in the first place. wait! does that mean i should write a note to REMIND me? aiyiyi – it’s complicated!
love, XO
karen, TC
AnneMarie said:
Yvonne…
Just wanted to say I love all of these observations….. and yes, I can relate to each of them. My lists were supplemented by voice memos on my phone so I would remember to ADD things to a list I know I won’t ever attempt to tackle….
Love and hugs….
xoxox
Editor said:
Yes AnneMarie!!
I’d forgotten (shocker) about the texts I send myself and the voice memos as well.
xo
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